Archive for January, 2011


Father-Daughter dance

January 28, 2011

Although my Dad and I didn’t always have the best relationship growing up, we’ve definitely become closer now that I’m an adult (and no longer live at home ;)).

I danced with my brother at his wedding in 2009. After I finished, my Dad motioned for me to dance with him … and I burst into tears. All I could think about was the two of us dancing together on my wedding day. I’ve already told you I’ll likely cry when he sees me all dolled up for the first time …

I’m actually getting teary-eyed writing this. 😦

*deep breath*

Moving on …

I want to find us a good song for our Father-Daughter dance. If my mom had her way, we’d be dancing to I Loved Her First by Heartland; however, it’s not really my style. I’ll ask our DJ to play it at some point, but not for our dance.

These two are my favorites right now:

Daughter by Loudon Wainwright

Father & Daughter by Paul Simon


What was your Father-Daughter song?


So long pretty dresses

January 26, 2011

Remember WAY back (gosh, it seems like forever ago) when I wrote about those ass-backward wedding decisions?

Well, I neglected to mention the purchase of flower girl dresses in the spring.

The Children’s Place dresses were just too cute for me to pass up – especially when I found them on sale 50% off.

Isn’t it super cute??

Too bad I decided not to use them.


There are several reasons for nixing the prettiness. First, I think I need to break up the black for the photos. After Randy tried on tuxedo jackets, I realized I’d be the only person wearing white in the pictures. That’s not necessarily a bad thing for me, though. 😉 At this point, the only attire I can truly control is the flower girls so changing anything else is out of the question.

Second, the salesman at the tux place has me all freaked out about putting anything white next to my dress in pictures. The flowers of the dress pictured above are definitely white – and it does make my diamond (or soft) white dress look off-white or ivory-ish when I compare the two. I wouldn’t necessarily use the word “dirty” like he did though. With that said, I’m not sure if I should purchase white or ivory dresses for the girls.

Finally, I have a feeling one of the girls has out-grown her dress. It was short(er) on her to begin with and her mama says she’s grown so much recently. At the time I ordered them, I think the girls’ moms did a great job guesstimating their future sizes, but they’re kids. Growing is what they do. In hindsight, I should have just said no. However, that’s why someone invented eBay. 😉

Let the new dress search begin!

Here’s the deal, though. I refuse to spend an exorbitant amount of money of them. Unfortunately, that knocks every bridal salon out of the running, considering most of those dresses start at $85.

So I turned to my friend Google for help.

It led me to the adorable Pink Marie.


Love this dress! The description says it’s a natural T-length, so I think we’d be safe for both girls. However, it only comes in ivory.


This one is very similar; however, it’s satin instead of organza and only comes in white. What is it with these dress makers? Haha!


The flower petals in the skirt are SO nice! It’s very princess-like which I think the girls would LOVE, and it comes in white/white or ivory/ivory. It is a bit more than I wanted to spend, but I found a cheaper counterpart on eBay:

The seller has overwhelmingly positive feedback, but I do worry about the quality since it’s so cheap. She does have a return policy, so I could return the dresses right away if I didn’t like them.

What’cha think? 😀


Boys have good ideas too

January 21, 2011

At the onset of wedding planning, I was literally begging Randy for input on ideas or vendors.

I typically got shrugged shoulders or “Whatever you want” as a response.

Then, after he got tired of hearing me complain about lack of interest, he started speaking up.

And I shot him down. Multiple times.

Now, I didn’t automatically say no. I did mull over his ideas – sometimes going back and forth multiple times before deciding. But I don’t remember ever doing something his way. 😛

Until yesterday.

He asked if I wanted to take the guest tree to the rehearsal dinner …

Before he was even finished his sentence I said, “No. Why would we do that?”

He shot me one of those classic, “If you’d shut the hell up I’ll tell you” looks and went right on talking.

His idea?

We take the tree to the rehearsal dinner and have the bridal party “leaf” their thumbprints and sign their names. That way it’s not a bare tree the day of and our guests can mimic what others have done.

I got a big smile on my face and told him it was a brilliant idea.

Of course, that will just be one more thing to worry about taking to the venue the day of (instead of the day before). Maybe that can be his responsibility since he came up with such a good idea. 😉


A country boy cleans up

January 18, 2011

My  groom-to-be tried on tuxedos yesterday morning.

I know it’s a bit early, but you know how I like to plan ahead. 😉

And, really, it’s just a tuxedo. How difficult could it be? As it turns out, it was the most painless item on the wedding to-do list.

We walked into Daniel’s on High Street and were greeted by a nice salesman. I was a bit distracted by the store’s selection of WVU apparel. Did you know they make jeans with Flying WV’s embroidered on the back pockets? Me neither, but I want a pair!

After reminding myself to focus, I told him we were there so Randy could try on tuxedos for our wedding. He asked us questions about the wedding and attire. I quickly rattled off the spiel I’ve grown so accustomed to saying:

“The ceremony will be outdoors. The bridesmaids are wearing short, black chiffon dresses. The basic colors are black and white with bright flowers providing pops of color. My dress is not overly formal – here, you can see a picture of it – and I’m undecided on a veil.”


After listening to my diarrhea of the mouth, the salesman asked about the color of my dress.

“It’s diamond white,” I said.

He made a face and asked if I was sure.

“Well, that’s what the consultant said when I was told they don’t provide dress swatches.”

Evidently, diamond white is somewhere between white and ivory. If my dress is truly that color, they won’t be able to put the guys in white shirts because it’ll make my dress look dirty.

Going on the premise it is diamond white, he began explaining to us the difference between the store’s most popular tuxedo rentals.

Notched and wing collars.

Solids and pinstripes.

Two and three-button jackets.

Traditional satin-striped pants and non-traditional.

Bow and regular ties.

While he was describing everything, I was busy swooning over the first option he discussed – a black on black pinstripe tuxedo without the traditional satin stripe on the pants.

Geno's Formal Affair

My mind was made up.

First, I have a thing for pinstripes. Gah! Second, this tux looks like a suit to me. I wasn’t sold on the idea of a tux because they seem so formal. This is the perfect combination! Third … well, did I mention the pinstripes?

You can’t see them in this picture, but I assure you they are there. 😉

Isn’t he handsome? It’s the first time I’ve ever seen my country boy dressed up. He cleans up well, huh? 😀

I didn’t even take pictures of the other jackets he tried on. Told you I’d already decided. Thankfully, it was the one Randy like best as well. So he says, anyway. Haha!

As the salesman was writing down Randy’s information, I looked at the shirt he was wearing – the shirt that will supposedly coordinate with my dress. It looked ivory (almost yellow) to me. Not content to fly by the seat of my pants on the color, I told the salesman I would bring my dress in to compare the “whites.” It’s the only way I’ll have peace of mind.

With that, the attire chapter is almost finished.

Oh … P.S. …

Two little tidbits I almost forgot.

  • The salesman told me he smiles every time a bride comes in and says her colors are black and white. He said it makes his job (and the bride’s) so much easier when it comes to accessorizing (vest and ties) the tuxedos. Go figure.
  • You can tell Randy isn’t a small man. He’s much thinner than he was this time last year, but he’s not a string bean by any means. The hanger for his coat was labeled “50 L”. Poor guy looked at it and said, “Fifty large …” I quickly told him the “L” stands for Long. I think that made him feel better.

Shhhh …

January 15, 2011

This is a No Randy Zone


I know some brides and grooms give each other gifts the day before or day of the wedding. At the onset of wedding planning, Randy and I talked about doing this and decided it wasn’t for us.

However, I reneged on our deal.

I couldn’t help it. The idea was too compelling, too cool.

I just hope I’ll be able to keep it a secret for the next 161 days (!!!).

Randy very rarely goes anywhere without a hat. Anyone who knows him will attest to that. I can’t tell you how many times he’s paced the house looking for his misplaced ball cap just so we can go to dinner or the grocery store.

Hat : Randy = Phone : Lindsay

Soooooo …

I thought it would be nice to get him a personalized hat to wear the day of.  I ordered it from Crazy Custom Caps this morning. It’s a black hat with a white W (first initial of his last name) on the front and our wedding date on the back. Yay!! I’ll make sure to post pictures when it arrives.

In the meantime, I have to tell you how cute Randy is. He’s so excited to get married … 🙂 I swear, we have this conversation at least twice a week:

Randy: (randomly, sometimes in the middle of a conversation) Honey, are you anxious/excited/ready/etc.?

Me: For what?

Randy: To get married/For June/For the wedding.

Me: Some days … some days not. Are you?

Randy: Maybe (in this high-pitched voice, sing-song voice)

Maybe in Randy-speak is almost always a yes; however, you really have to listen to the tone of his voice to decipher a maybe-yes from a maybe-no.

That’s definitely a maybe-yes. 😉

Conversations like that really help put things in perspective. At the end of the day, nothing matters except the two of us being married. 🙂


Holy homework!

January 7, 2011

I haven’t had homework in several years, but that changed today.

These aren’t traditional school assignments either …

It’s ceremony writing homework!

Since we decided to ask a friend to perform our ceremony, we enlisted the help of Jessie Blum of Eclectic Unions to write our ceremony. After exchanging several e-mails and signing a contract, Jessie gave us “homework” to get the ball rolling.

The packet includes options for our vows (or starting points to write our own), reading suggestions, ring vow options (“With this ring, I thee wed”), The Asking options (“I, Lindsay, take you, Randy …”), and a form to list our wedding party, songs, etc.

But that’s not all.

There is a two-page questionnaire about us, our relationship, our views of the wedding, etc. that we have to fill out … separately.

No group work for you! 😛

With that in mind, I have a confession …

I underestimated the amount of work it would take to create a personalized ceremony. After first reading the document, I was overwhelmed. There were questions I never considered (“What do you hold sacred?”), and questions I could answer with paragraphs (“What does your partner do that always makes you laugh?”).

Don’t get me wrong; I’m all kinds of excited to get started. I’m even more excited to read the final product and, more importantly, actually say our vows in front of friends and family. I even think answering the questions – and then comparing them – will be great for us. In its own unique way, it’s our pre-martial counseling.

But, wow! I guess it’s true:

“About the only thing that comes to us without effort is old age.”

~Gloria Pitzer



Flowers for my hair

January 6, 2011

It was quite comical in our house last night.

Ridiculous is more like it. 😉 The proof is in the pictures.

Although I’m still not sure about a veil, I do know I want to wear a flower.

But do I want a plain flower, or one with a rhinestone center? Is an off-white okay, or do I need a bright (diamond) white to match my dress? How big should it be? Decisions, decisions!

Surfing aimlessly through Etsy, this flower by designsbypris jumped out at me:

Isn’t it gorgeous? It’s huge though!

“Honey,” I said. “Do you think this flower would be too big for my hair? It’s about 5.5 inches across.”

“Well, how big will your hair be,” said the king of deadpan humor. Ha! 😛

I showed him this picture, but told him I’d like the curls to be more on the back of my head instead of the top.

He turned the laptop every which way before handing it back to me, “I don’t know. It’s hard to tell with that picture.”

He left the room and I resumed my search. The same seller offers a petite version that I like just as much – and it measures between 3.5-3.75 inches:

Just as I was bookmarking the listing, Randy walks back into the room carrying a metal, L-shaped ruler.“This is 5.5 inches,” he said holding it up for me to see.

I won’t lie; I had to giggle. 😉

“I found one that’s smaller though! It’s only 3.5 inches.”

On cue, he moved his finger to the 3.5-inch mark. And I giggled some more. Yes … I’m two.

Exasperated because I couldn’t visualize these flowers with a flat ruler, I asked if we had anything round in the two different sizes. You’ll never guess what he found … a roll of duct tape (3.5 inches) and a Pyrex plastic lid (a tad bigger than 5.5 inches).


As if those aren’t funny enough alone, I actually stood in front of the bathroom mirror and “tried them on.”

Then I asked him to take pictures of me “wearing” each one. He gave me one of those looks. You know, the kind that says, “Seriously? Are you really asking me to do this?” But he didn’t argue.

For your viewing pleasure …

Duct tape flower:

Pyrex flower:

Quite becoming, don’t ya think? I think I like the smaller one (and I just realized the seller has a 4-inch one, too). What say you?